Understanding our Inner Life and Inner Healing: Victim to Survivor to Thriver

(Barbara H Whitfield RT and Charles L Whitfield MD) I (BW) wrote my 6th book Victim to Survivor and Thriver in 2011. At the time, I was unaware that to become a Survivor and eventually a Thriver, we could ask/pray for an assistant to our healing work that Charles and I now call early “Dragon Energy.”

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All of the characteristics of movement in the Survivor and Thriver column below are aided by Dragon Energy.

“The Hero’s Journey”

Victim	Survivor	Thriver
“depression”	Movement of feelings	Aliveness
Doesn’t deserve to enjoy life	Struggling to Heal	Gratitude for everything in life
Low self-esteem/shame/unworthy	Sees self as wounded & healing	Sees self as an overflowing miracle
Hyper-vigilant	Learning to relax	Able to experience peace
Confusion and numbness	Learning to grieve, grieving past ungrieved trauma	Grieving at current losses
Hopeless	Hopeful	Faith in self and life
Hides personal story	Not afraid to tell our story to safe people	Transforms our story to “Hero’s journey”
Feels defective	Compassion for others and eventually self	Open heart for self and others
Often wounded by unsafe others	Learning how to protect self with “share-check-share”	Protects self from unsafe others
Places own needs last	Learning healthy needs	Places self first
Creates One Drama after another	Sees patterns	Creates peace
Believes suffering is the human condition	Feeling some relief	Finds Joy and Peace
Serious all the time	Beginning to laugh	Sees humor in life
Inappropriate Humor, Teasing	Feels associated painful feelings	Uses healthy humor
Numb or Angry around toxic people	Increased awareness of pain and dynamics	Healthy boundaries with all people
Lives in the past	Aware of patterns	Lives in the now
Angry at Religion	Understanding the difference between religion & spirituality	Enjoys personal relationship with a Higher Power

Whitfield B, Victim to Survivor and Thriver (2011 Muse House Press), Dragon Energy (2019 Muse House Press)

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We first heard the term “Dragon Energy” from the way Kayne West described Donald Trump’s Energy. Everyone who follows Trump is amazed by his boundless Energy and his connection to God. Depending on your beliefs, Dragon Energy can also be called Ki, Chi, Holy Spirit, Ruach ha Kadosh, or even Kundalini. In each belief system this boundless Energy comes from God and comes through us to be an agent of God’s Eternal Love.

Years later we found this good graphic illustration of the Victim-Survivor-Thriver process of healing that we show below. Of course the first figure represents the Victim, then the Survivor and then Thriver. We note that the Thriver is looking upward and with humility as though to God or a Higher Power.

Figure 18. The VàSàT Process

Victim Survivor Thriver

This process goes back to and is similar to that of • ancient and current Alchemy, • working through the Chakras and • spans to our current 2020 trauma recovery of Adult Children of Trauma and which we have published 24 books on since 1987 including Healing the Child Within, A Gift to Myself, Core Issues, Spiritual Awakenings, The Natural Soul, The Power of Humility and 19 other books. Our latest book Dragon Energy: Myth and Reality is a compilation and an expansion of current and ancient healing.

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About The Authors

Charles L Whitfield MD
Barbara H Whitfield RT

The Whitfields have authored and co-authored 24 books on healing from trauma and other problems in living. Dr. Whitfield is a retired associate professor of medicine and psychiatry at two medical schools. Barbara was a medical school psych researcher studying the after-effects of near-death and other spiritually transformative experiences. They each taught at the Rutger’s Institute of Alcohol and Drug Studies for a total of 24 years. They have a private practice helping trauma survivors in individual and group psychotherapy.

Visit www.barbara-whitfield.com for more of their excellent work. 

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