(Stillness in the Storm Editor) You have a body and you have emotions. They are not your emotions; you are experiencing them. The difference between the conscious you (intellect) and feeling you (emotion) is often described as the inner child. If your conscious mind, through will power, refuses to let the inner child express emotions authentically, this causes all sorts of problems. Specifically, if we spend too long not allowing ourselves to process experiences emotionally, by feeling them, the inner child can become closed off and toxic. Have you ever been around a toxic toddler? This is when, despite the fact we want to feel happy, we can’t seem to. It feels like being dead inside. Or, the only emotions we feel are negative ones, leading to depression.
One way to solve the problem is to allow yourself to feel again. And if we use the concept of a child we can better understand why crying often helps.
Imagine a child in time out. They want to be with the family or playing, but they are unable to do so. This makes them feel left out, often causing them to feel sadness. If left alone too long, this sadness can turn to anger, which can turn to hatred, which can turn to malevolence. The solution is to get the original emotions processed and this will wipe away all the secondary toxic effects.
There’s a mountain of science to back up what I’m saying. But it’s a simple truth we usually understand at a deep level. The issue is we live in a world where emotional healing isn’t encouraged. For women, they are encouraged to feed toxic emotions to gain sympathy. For men, they are encouraged to suppress emotions to appear together and stoic.
When you finally let yourself cry, even if it’s been a long time since the original issue, it often releases old energies and lets the healing process take place.
The following article discusses this phenomenon of crying as a way to heal. And I can share, it works like a charm!
Don’t be a coward, cry your eyes out and let the cleansing power of tears work its magic.
– Justin
(Mayukh Saha) Crying is as normal an event as breathing. But the forces that govern us have forever seen this action to be one of weakness. Men especially are always ridiculed if they cry. It is viewed as an emasculating thing to do. On the other hand, women are seen as extremely spoilt if they cried, no matter the reason. To put it simply, one’s reasons for crying could be varied, but a single tear down the eye would be perceived as less humanly.
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by Mayukh Saha, February 10th, 2020
And this affects us adversely. We start thinking and believing that any form of emotion is simply vulnerability. This leads to us never speaking up about our problems because we believe it would be extremely hazardous to our public image if we ever opened up to anyone. The truth, on the other hand, is that we should cry once in a while. It helps us expel and vent our emotions in a very healthy way.
Many reports on this subject say that if you are able to cry at your plight in life, it means that you can face your own emotions and actively deal with them. But this also means that you have higher emotional intelligence.
To many people, it is quite difficult to express themselves. But they need to know how to. One could be as cold as ice, but they definitely need to vent out at one point in time. And this is a necessity; else you might contract several mental health issues. There is no harm in expressing what you feel, but there might be a lot of problems in hiding what you feel.
If you keep bottling up what you feel inside, there will come a time when you might need to simply bring it out in the open. And there are no two ways about it. Cry, vent out your emotions, and do not let anything keep you down. Crying will help you move on, so there is always that benefit to it.
Professor Roger Baker of Bournemouth University believes that crying isn’t the only thing that helps us vent our emotions. In fact, it is a series of processes that will allow us to truly express what we feel. After crying comes a period where you simply need to talk about things and talk about them until you are left with nothing but memories. And then comes processing grief through time. You give it time, and soon it is simply a distant image in your mind, incapable of hurting you.
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It isn’t always time- sometimes you need to take a series of steps to help yourself deal with stress.
Dr. Judith Orloff also speaks about how crying will help someone feel better despite problems coming up. It clears out your tear ducts, while also emptying your heart. The modern society needs to do away with what they consider to be manly, and unmanly. There is nothing feminine or emasculating about crying. You cry because you are hurt, and people irrespective of their gender get hurt.
So go ahead, and pour your eyes and soul out.
Image credit: Danil Chepko
Stillness in the Storm Editor: Why did we post this?
Consciousness is one of the most mysterious phenomena of all time. Scientists, philosophers, and mystics have been searching for the answer to the question, What is Consciousness? for most of human history. In modern times, the spiritual origins of consciousness are being replaced with a materialistic view, that awareness emerges as an additive property of electrical impulses in living things. Despite the fact this theory is assumed to be true, any self-respecting psychologist will tell you we have no idea what consciousness really is. The preceding article discusses consciousness, some of its properties, and possible origins. This is helpful to contemplate because, in the act of trying to understand the mysteries of consciousness, you develop critical thinking skills and stimulate your philosophic muscles, both which are immensely important for almost everything we do in life. Additionally, you’ll develop abstract thinking skills, the ability to explore intangible realities that govern material realms. With the power of an active mind capable of navigating the realities of consciousness, great leaps in personal attainment can be made along with preparing you for the Great Work of making this world a better place.
– Justin
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