(Exploring Your Mind) Curving is a widespread practice on social media. It basically expresses a rejection of someone. However, it’s based on a rather perverse use of communication.
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by Staff Writer, April 11th, 2022
Social media has its own language which isn’t always clear to newbies or ‘seniors’. Curving is one such term. It refers to one of the new trends in interaction within the framework of virtuality. It’s actually a practice that already existed in the face-to-face world, but which has become more evident and incisive on the Internet.
Curving is a subtle way of ignoring or cutting off another person in such a politically correct way that it often goes unnoticed. It’s a subtle form of rejection. Furthermore, in some cases, it even becomes a form of manipulation.
The best way to distance yourself from someone is in a direct manner. Indeed, your ability to communicate means you have at your fingertips a good number of phrases to express these sentiments. However, curving, as its name implies, doesn’t follow a straight line, but runs along a sinuous and extraordinarily exhausting path.
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Curving
Curving manifests itself in different ways. The most common is what some call ‘letting someone go’. When this happens, one person sends a message and the other sees it but doesn’t respond, certainly not immediately. As a matter of fact, it may take days or even weeks before they answer. Furthermore, when they do, it’s usually in a rather disinterested way.
On the other hand, they may occasionally reply quickly but in such a way that demonstrates their eagerness to bring the conversation to a close. They might be quite polite but, at the same time, somewhat superficial and lacking in real warmth.
At the opposite extreme is the person who claims they don’t really understand what’s happening. If someone treats you in this way, you might think that they’re just having a bad day, week, or month. You’ll tend to believe that they want to maintain communication, but that their circumstances are preventing it. In fact, many of those who practice curving say things like: “I’m sorry I didn’t answer you earlier, but I was really busy.”
From curving to manipulation
Sometimes, curving is only maintained for a short time, until the other person realizes what’s happening and understands that there’s not much they can do about it. This is the healthiest way of bringing it to an end. Nevertheless, there’s also the possibility that the game will last for a while.
The latter takes place when one party adopts an ambiguous attitude. They don’t respond quickly and don’t react with genuine interest to interactions, but they do show signs of interest from time to time. Indeed, every once in a while, real conversations take place which encourage one party to persevere.
Whoever exercises curving in this way usually does it because they don’t want to hurt the other or because they’re tired of giving and not receiving. It’s really likely that they’re not fully aware that acting in this way has a clear name: manipulation. Why do two people, who are almost always adults, enter this maze?
Anguish as the basis
People who practice curving in a manipulative way need the other person. For this reason, they don’t want to completely lose the link with them, but they don’t want to allow it to advance and deepen either.
However, it’s also possible that they themselves are victims of a form of separation anxiety. In which case, ‘losing’ the other would be quite painful for them. Therefore, they don’t want to stop receiving these signs of interest and affection because they need them. What they don’t do is practice reciprocity.
Something similar may happen to the one who perseveres, despite the signs of rejection. In fact, persisting becomes a way of dealing with their dormant modes of anguish. They may not be so interested in the other person but voluntarily submitting to the cycle of acceptances and rejections ‘helps’ them overcome an existential void. In fact, the curving, from side to side, speaks of a lack of honesty with themselves.
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